Many of us, as children, were taught not to brag or think too highly of ourselves. I mean, no one likes a braggart or someone who acts entitled. But on the other hand, some of us are a bit too self-deprecating or even suffer from low self-esteem as we have not learned healthy ways of building ourselves up. Do you know what the key to this is? It is both the easiest thing to understand but perhaps difficult to put into action.

You must be vigilant about the words you speak about yourself, whether to others or yourself. You are the authority over your own life, and as we’ve all heard, whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right! Meaning, what you believe about yourself will become your reality. And since you spend so much time with yourself, why not learn to be friends and be kind to yourself?

Old ‘tapes’ may run in your head from people of your past who spoke badly about you. But you can actively work to change that default dialogue in your head that speaks unkind things about you and keeps you feeling defeated. Many of you know what I am talking about. And you hold the key to changing that!

Years ago, I set about to change the course of my life by speaking only good about myself. I made lists of ‘decrees’ I would read to myself, stating the good things about myself that I wanted to believe. That I am kind, important, worthy of love, smart etc. You probably have an idea about what things you should say about yourself to help build yourself up. It may be different than my list depending on your circumstances. But you believe your own voice/thoughts more than anyone else’s, so it stand to reason that you need to speak good things about yourself in order to build your self-esteem.

Thinking thoughts of failure are a self-fulfilling prophecy. Break the habit of negative self-talk and turn the tables today.