Sometimes we build relationships with people who are only meant to be part of our lives for a while. They may have come to teach us something about ourselves, or to provide support for a struggle we encountered. Let’s face it, a lot of people will float in and out of our lives over the years. And as we grow in maturity and self-knowledge, we also come to the realization that some of those people, although once very much involved in our lives, have gravitated to the fringes of our lives, and we see more clearly where these individuals have fit into the scheme of life. Maybe we needed them at one point. Maybe they needed us. But what once was is gone and now what?

Sometimes, you need that bit of distance to be able to discern the situation more accurately. Maybe the concern they seem to have shown for you has been rooted in ulterior motives, but it was hard to see when they were closer to you. They will meddle under the guise of ‘being concerned’ while actively trying to sway your way of thinking about another person or situation. And having survived a cult church, I am quite done with being manipulated in life.

So, if you know that someone is being manipulative towards you for the purpose of their own gain, feel free to let them go. You are entitled to your own life, your own thoughts and your own choices. If someone would gladly take those freedoms from you for their own ulterior motives and gain, then they really aren’t your friend who wants what is best for you, are they?

Life is too short to waste on people who make you feel less than, people who try to meddle in your affairs or people make you feel uneasy because you know they are going to try to influence you in a way that makes you uncomfortable. If your gut says it’s not right, trust it. Vibes don’t lie! Release them with positivity and blessings, and know you’ve done yourself a great favour.